Tuesday, July 3, 2007

Karma test

I took a KARMA test and my result....out of 1,000..i got 826 KARMA POINTs...

"Shine, your personalized test results indicate that over the past year, you've earned826 karma points out of 1000 potential karma points." WHOA!

HIGHLIGHTS are:

***In your concerted efforts to do what you can for the greater good, you generate positive karma for yourself and the universe

***Noble actions represent the most direct and literal expression of karma. In other words, when you do something good for someone else, something good will come back to you.

***Karma is different from coincidence or destiny or luck. Karma is the universe's infallible justice system. According to karma, what goes around comes around and you get what you give. Karma states that nothing is by chance or luck. Instead, karma is based on anything you intentionally think, say, or do. According to the laws of karma, your past actions have determined your present life, and your present actions are shaping your future. The generation of karma is an ongoing process. This means that your actions today, or on any given day, will directly affect your lifetimes of tomorrows.

***Karma is known as "natural law," which means that your actions will bring equivalent rewards or punishments regardless of whether another person ever knows about them. In this way, your future is always in your own hands. You have the opportunity to reform or enhance any area of your karma in any given moment. It's believed that by building your individual karma, you guarantee that good things will come to you in the future. Achieving good health, financial well-being, abundant love, and overall satisfaction are felt to be linked to your thoughts, words, and actions. However, according to the Buddhist principles of karma, the effects of your personal karma spread far beyond yourself. Buddhists believe that your karma also impacts the collective karma of a group — be it your family, your community, or the world population. Therefore, the ultimate goal is to use our karma to eliminate suffering for as many people as possible, in addition to ourselves.

Karma can serve as a clear and practical moral gauge that you can use in your everyday life. For example, when you're having negative thoughts about someone else, consider how these thoughts negatively impact your individual karma, as well as the collective karma of the world. Instead of simply indulging in your negativity, you may decide that everyone would be better served if you transformed these ideas into more positive and constructive thoughts.

Karma is like an extension of the Judeo-Christian golden rule: "Do unto others as you'd like to have done unto you." Imagine a future for yourself that entails a bounty of kind thoughts, compassionate words, and caring actions streaming toward you and from you. According to karma, this is an entirely possible outcome, completely in your own power.

There are a variety of popular expressions based on the ideas of karma, including: "You get what you give," "You reap what you sow," and "What goes around comes around.

"Regardless of your spiritual faith, the concept of karma is a useful one in determining how to lead a good life. By monitoring your intended thoughts, words, and actions, you can see for yourself how much good you're putting out into the world, and thus how much you can expect to receive in return.

***Now, friends, do you believe in KARMA?????

Jealousy

If there is one demon that eats a man up and tears him apart, it is the Jealousy Demon. Men have such a terrible time handling jealousy.

Jealousy can make of a gentle man a roaring lion and even a homicidal maniac. The Jealousy Demon has provoked men to kill. It has destroyed more love relationships and collapsed more marriages than you can imagine. The Jealousy Demon is a tricky fellow. He pretends that hedoes his work in the name of love when in truth, he is all about low self-esteem, insecurity and controlling behavior.

Even the most solid man can, of course, get jealous if there is a real reason to be so. You become jealous when you fear losing your beloved. You might feel threatened by someone you sense could move into your relationship and steal your loved one. If you are correctabout your suspicions; if there is really something there; if the threat is real, then you have every reason to be jealous.

If, however, your jealousy is justified, it is because there is a crack in your relationship. Perhaps things are not going well and your beloved is tempted to play with fire. Maybe there is conflict and boredom and your partner is seen looking over the fence for some consolation.

This is when panic sets in and the Jealousy Demon goes to work on you with a fury. You feel threatened. You fear losing the love you cherish. You ask yourself what went wrong, why you are not enough for your beloved. You are hurt and perhaps even insulted because your loved one seems to be looking away and searching for someone else. You sense that you might be losing your grip on the relationship. You might even feel so upset that you wonder if you are going crazy.

If, however, you are jealous for no real reason, then the Jealousy Demon really has you running around in circles. Now you're imagining ghosts that are not really there. You're making accusations that are far fetched and off the wall. Your beloved is as loyal as can be, but you cannot believe it. Your low self-esteem and your lack of confidence in your ability to keep your beloved kick in and cause you to imagine all sorts of threats that only exist in your troubled imaginings.

You suffer even more than the jealous person who is justifiably jealous because you have nothing to go on. You can't prove anything and what you think is a real threat is proven false time and again. You have become paranoid. You are so possessive of your partner that it is difficult for your beloved to breathe.

All this creates a growing level of stress and tension which becomes unbearable after a time. It gravely damages your love and threatens to destroy it. And should your relationship survive and the Jealousy Demon remains firmly entrenched in your heart, then your relationship becomes a real hell. And if there is no true threat, your jealousy becomes a major threat in itself and could, in time, cause the collapse of the very love you want to save.

Saturday, February 24, 2007

YOUR WORTH!!!!

Where does negative thinking comes from?

Feeling of unworthiness - Self worth determines the quality of life you have..

S – To see yourself the way you would like to be, once you see it, you will feel it(In all areas of life health, wealth, love and success)

E- Elimination of negative thoughts and stop being critical about yourself

L- Loving yourself, despite your short coming and the way you are.“If God is w/in 100%, I am worth loving”

F- Figuring out ways to improve yourself. Begin simply, ask yourself can I improve the way I dress, walk, talk, smile, etc. etc.“if you believe in your heart, truly people like you” by being interested with them.

W- welcoming new ideas and changes…” never close your mind to new ideas”There will be changes in everybody’s life… everything is changing nothing is constant. The river looks the same but the water change.

O- Optimistic about life..One with God every day, all things are good in given time..

R- Remembering others… bday, personal notes of special to the person…How many times have you been given w/out asking.“ Before you call I will answer”

T- TithingHow much are you really worth, if you cam give the value of your service...Knowing who you are connected

H – Having goals and having dreamsTo the degree of your self worthies to the degree of your life



Being Perfect.....


Perfect is not just winning...


Being perfect is about you and your relationship to yourself, your family and your friends…


Being perfect is about being able to look your friends in the eye…

And you know that you did not let them down.Because you told them the truth and

the truth is that you did everything that you could,

there was not one more thing that you could have done…

Can you live in that moment….

As best as you can, with clear eyes and love in your heart?

With joy in your heart

If you could do that, ladies & gentlemen,

Then Life is Perfectly Beautiful!!

Sunday, February 4, 2007

The REASONS


Why can't we let go of that somebody and of the feelings that we have for that person?
When we already know that it's time to move on and set ourselves free. What's holding us back from continuing our journey? There are other Roads to take and other doors to open but why do we keep ourselves contain ed in the same situation? When we already know that the same situation just keeps spinning in circles, when it seems like there is no end to all the things that we go thru, and yet we hang on until our patience run out, until we have sh ed the last tear drop, until every fiber of our being can no longer sustain all emotions.
Why can't we let go?
Good memorable moments for us are worth keeping. That is why we obsess over the thought or the situation, making it very difficult for us to move on. So we stay attach ed , mentally and emotionally, sometimes even sexually. We think that if we hold on to that special someone (who we think is special at that moment), that there would be a chance for things to change. And of course we always think that things would change for the better
For that matter, we give that "somebody" so many chances, we give ourselves reasons or should I say "excuses" not to end the so call ed "relationship". In the end, we find ourselves hurting and crying. We find out that we are just fooling ourselves, that no matter how long we stay in that relationship or situation and how much we give, NOTHING will change for the better. Rather, things change for the worse.
So why stay? Why can't we let go?
Some people stay in relationships feeling obligat ed to be a good boyfriend or girlfriend. They get scar ed of breaking up because they think that no one else will love them and accept them for who they are. Or maybe they think that they would not find anybody better than their bf or gf. This is even after they realize that the feelings that they have had already fad ed away. Some would feel like they "owe" that other person so much because of the good intentions that that individual show ed to them. And because of this train of thought, those people feel compell ed to be in a situation that they don't want to be in. So they get stuck and would later on complain that they want out but they don't have the guts to break lose.
This is not the feeling of love or being in love, it's the feeling of being secure with the other person. Because being secure means no more pretenses, no ne ed for facades, and no ne ed for mind games, just acceptance of all that's good and bad about someone. It is true though... why would you let go of somebody who loves you very much and who accepts you for who you are?
It's hard isn't it?
But the real question is... "Are you happy?" and "do you still love this person?" If the answer is yes... then there should be no doubt in your mind that this person is the one for you. That thru thick and thin, you will be willing to go thru hell and back with him or her. But if there is doubt..... Be fair, to yourself and to that individual. You are the only person who knows what is right... you know how you really feel.
On some occasions, people are drawn together because of physical attraction and \bsexo?\b. These are the people who get together NOT because they trust, love and understanding each other but they bond together because they act upon their ne ed s and desires. Some of us might ask: "Does it ever go beyond the physical or sexual phase?" Whether we dare to admit it or not, if two people spend enough time together, often times feelings get develop ed . It may not be as strong as falling in love but the attachment and passion is still there.
When feelings grow, there may be times where one feels more than the other, that person might get emotionally attach ed without wanting those feelings in purpose. And in order for things not to get spoil ed , that person would usually try to control how he/she feels especially if he/she does not have a clear understanding of where he/she stands in the other person's life.
People who are in this kind of pr ed icament typically put their guard up in fear of rejection; in fear that the other person would not feel the way they do; or in fear that if they reveal their real intentions and feelings, the other person might lose interest. . So they get content just staying in that situation without having any emotional involvement, with no strings attach ed and no obligations. But deep inside they hurt, they cry, they wonder. On the other hand, they remain involv ed maybe because they hope that they would end up having an intimate and meaningful relationship with their partner (dream on!)
Some may be so infatuat ed with the other person that they would mistakenly consider how they feel as being "in love". They get so blind ed by each moment they spend time with that someone because it makes them feel good and want ed even for just that instant. In the bottom of their hearts, they long for that person to care for them the way they do. The truth is ... nothing will change the way that other person feels for them. It will be no more than just a physical attraction, and enjoy-for-the-moment kind of situation.
It sucks doesn't it? But that is reality.
You could never make someone like you, care for you or love you. You could only give so much but in the end if that other person still doesn't see you as someone they could spend real time with, you have to learn how to cut him/her lose because you will end up just playing the role of a "meantime" boyfriend or girlfriend, no more no less.
In every relationship, once it ends, it always leaves someone feel a sense of longing and emptiness. It is worst when things are left unsaid and unfinish ed . So people tend to hang on to the good memories they had with the other person and they end up wondering and questioning themselves of what they have done wrong or "why this, why that", "what if...", or "how if". Typical for a broken-heart ed individual but how could he or she help it? It's like having someone read you a story without telling you the ending of it. Would you not wonder about what have had happen ed or how it end ed ?
It's the same thing when someone leaves you for no reason. You tend to "think too much"; you try to look for justification for that person's actions, It's mind-boggling when all these questions are running in your head and all you have for answers are merely speculations
You keep hoping that if only you could talk to that person one more time, you might be able to get some answers and have a peace of mind once and for all (but once you do get the answer, most of the time it's not something you would want to hear). So the more you think, the harder it gets to make a new start for yourself; the harder it is to accept the fact that what you have with that someone is over; therefore, you tend to hold on to your misery longer than you ought to.
So what is there to do?
All advises from family and friends could be helpful in times of heartache. It doesn't cure the hurt and pain but at least it eases it a little. Along the way, you will find yourself having more strength to go thru the day. For a lot of people, the company of friends or even just acquaintances is the best way to keep their sanity in tact. Whichever manner you try in order for you to get by is all up to you because despite all the advises everyone tells you, "Heartbreaks will last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go.."

Saturday, February 3, 2007

WHEELS OF LIFE


Once upon a time
there was a girl who lived on fairy tales.
she was happy in her world of princesses and happy endings...
she lived in a world
where dreams and make-believes were reality.
but the years rolled by too fast...
she had to leave her childish ways
and be the lady she had to be.
the world has so much to offer...
she had to finish a degree
and she did well on taking on a career
she always wanted to do...
but time caught up and soon
and she was forced to begin
another chapter in her life...
she had to become a woman too soon.
she dreamt of a simple life...
to build a home
and find pleasure in the simple joys it bring
but while everything seemed so easy and within reach,
somewhere along the way,
the ultimate dream failed
and the woman was left
to find herself again...

with mE are my 3 lovely kids.....MICK KRYSTIAN EARL, ROELLE ABBY and MEA ROIMELEEN

Just go with it.....

Some say you need to have focus to be able to achieve what you want...well i dont know...maybe i have spent most of my life focusing on certain things that its only now that i realized how much i missed out on a lot of things.

In a relationship, i think its just a matter of going with the flow...dont focus too much on what should be done, how things should be done or when things should be done... stop living on the good memories and weeping over the bad times, rather just let it go...Each day comes with its own surprise.

Of course this I speak for myself. I think the world is too beautiful and people, well, they make our lives richer...from a good or bad experience, everyone, one way or another, leaves us with a special lesson or experience.

As for me, I just wanna lay back, let the sun (or rain) touch my face and smile...if today isnt good, what the heck! there's always tomorrow.

MONOLOGUE....

Most of the time people in love walks blind-folded. I dont mean to sound preaching because I went through that too. I would always find something to justify a wrong doing and even absorb the blame for arguments for the sake of having a peaceful day together.

But then I realized, am i willing to go as far as setting aside my self-respect for love? Do i consider my worth to be lesser than that of my man's? Love should make you become a better person...it should make you grow as partners and as individuals. What you do for the other's betterment should be just as beneficial to you. Before you can love someone, love yourself first. Because at end of it all, when everything else fails you only have yourself to love you.

I used to be a disaster myself and it didnt matter to me that I looked ugly or i get treated like a doormat. Until I realized, this isnt how we started. He used to be my prince. He was the center of my affection and attraction. I could blame him but then, who's fault is it really that i let him treat me that way? MINE. So I looked hard at myself and realized that it is entirely up to me to set the direction of my life. My destiny is in my hands and I vowed that whatever happens to my life, it is because that was my choice. I never had to resent anyone.

Dont be fooled by a lover's jaded idea that you have to give or give up everything for love. Sure love makes you ecstatically happy but if you end up losing your self-respect and dignity and values, where is the love there that should be for yourself? So, how far can I go for love? As far as where it would take me...

Wednesday, January 31, 2007

a DREAM

Some times when I close my eyes
I can see you.
When I am alone I feel you.
When it is quiet I can hear you.
I long for those precious moments we had
and the time we once shared.
I hope and pray that some day
we can be together.
All I have now are the memories,
we once made.
So, when my eyes open
I can no longer see you.
When I am in a crowded room
I can no longer feel you.
When I am surrounded by the faces
and voices of so many strangers
I can no longer hear you.
As the day goes by
and night draws near
I then know
I will:

See, feel, and hear you

once again as

I dream.

the distance....

The light fades
When you walk out of the room
My mind evades
The thoughts of being without you

It's the simple choices
That we'd never thought we'd make
Life's many chances
And our choosing which to take

I sit here lonely
Wishing I could call out to you
Across this distance
I wonder if you miss me, too

My heart is breaking
Only pictures can keep me sane
Or hearing your voice
That always seems to heal the pain

If I could go back
And do just one thing differently
I'd stay there with you
Or have you somehow here with me


When I look into your eyes,
I know that some things are meant to be.
When I see you smile,
I know I will adore you for as long as I live.
When you hold me close,
I know what heaven feels like.
When you tell me that you love me,
I could fly to the moon.
Every time you kiss me,
I fall in love all over again.
When I can hear your heart beating,
I know I’ve found everything I’ll ever need…
I have traveled the world over, seen many beautiful places-
But you are the most wonderful thing I have ever laid eyes upon.
The years may make us old and gray,
But my love for you will never grow old.
I thank God every day
I have the greatest friend who ever lived.
You are my comfort, my heart, my soul-
The breath in my prayers, the love of my life.
You are not just my other half…
But my whole.
I am not afraid to lose myself in you;
You are the only one in the world for me.
I’m sorry for all the fights,
All things I shouldn’t have said.
I would do anything for you,
And I promise I will never leave you.
Other arms may reach out to me,
Other eyes may smile at me…
But as long as I live,
The road will only lead back to you.

Friday, January 26, 2007

Am I on the RIGHT TRACK?????


Just asking myself this question....


My friends are asking me what makes me busy these past few days. I told them that I am on the other site, exchanging views and opinions, and what is that site? SAIPANBLOG...!!!!!


Actually, been busy also with my LABOR CASE in Saipan, the reason why i joined SAIPANBLOG, to voice out my feelings and insights about what's going on in Saipan right now...everyone in Saipan right now are talking about FEDERALIZATION, GREEN CARDS and SALARY/WAGE....


With regards to my LABOR CASE, some of my friends knew about it, especially those people who helped me out and lend a helping hand during my time in Saipan.It was filed AUGUST 2004, but until now...WALA PA RIN....!!!


So, I am figthing for my right, which I believe is the right thing to do...I did send emails to all people concern and who could possibly help me out with my case...read it and enjoy!


email from MR. JIM BENDETTO, Federal Ombudsman in Saipan, Office of Insular affairs:


"I have forwarded your e-mails to Cris Hilario. He will take care ofyou."
Jim Benedetto
email from Mr. CHARLES REYES, Press Secretary of for the Governor Fitial, CNMI
"Ms. Duran:
Since I am not familiar with the particulars of your case, I will forward your e-mail to our Department of Labor for an appropriate response.
I am sorry about your difficulties and I do hope your questions & concerns will be properly addressed. Thank you for your e-mail. "
"Dear Ms. Duran:Thank you for furnishing additional information about your labor case. I will forward these particulars to our Labor Department.
Please be assured that we do not condone any illegal labor activities in the CNMI. We are doing our best to enforce the law given our limited and decreasing resources, in view of the present economic downturn.
Happy New Year.
Charles Reyes"
At least, they did respond on my email, which I know a way of moving forward...one step in getting there about my Labor case...whew!
And only now, got the chance to talked to Mr. Chris Hilario through overseas call and tell me that he will make a letter address to Labor Office in Saipan for immediate hearing of my Labor Case and will send some papers for me to sign...WHOA!
It is not about the money,It is about WINNING and GAINING RESPECT from oppressor who keeps on laughing about it and about RIGHTS and for employers who are abusing their employees, If i win the case...What an accomplishment!
Now, asking again myself, AM I ON THE RIGHT TRACK??????
God said " NASA TAO ANG GAWA, NASA DIYOS ANG AWA!", which mean that I have to do my part and doing it now!
God Bless Me!

PLF First Anniversary


January 13, Saturday...It was the celebration everyone is waiting for, the FIRST PLF (Passion, Love and Forgiveness)group ANNIVERSARY.


We, the members would like this anniversary TO BE a memorable one by doing a good will in behalf of the needy...so, thankful and grateful to all our sponsors, Elsa, Reggie, Jeff, Sarah, and more, especially the members who shared something or more so that we could go on and make it happen, our project which is the CHARITY WORK for the needy...CRIBS.
I didn't get the chance to go with them to CRIBS, blame it on the traffic jam...5 hours of travel from Laguna to Manila...whew! but, still some still go on with the project, sharing a little bit of their time and bringing some gifts to them...I SALUTE YOU!
I was in Megamall when my cellphone got BATTERY EMPTIED..no chance for me to reach where are my groupmates..teary eyed, really don't know what to do..I don't want to miss the fun! Blame it on me, for i haven't put a note where would be the anniversary venue...decided to go to Pasig, Anelle and Gina's house, Thanks to tita Lorn's, who welcome me with open arms..charged my cellphone and made some phone calls, luckily Edwin gave me the name and place where i should go.
Meeting Bhong at Robinson foodcourt was overwhelming..hayyy...thanks Bhong for picking me up and bringing me to the venue!
Inside the function..glad to see PLF members around new and old ones...met Edz, marie, sweet naive... and now i feel safe! We had fun until 11:30 pm but the night is still young and decided once again to make the most of it...next stop BAYWALK!
At 4 am we decided to end the day...saying our goodbye's to one another...arrived here in my place safe and sound at 7 am...
Thanks everyone for this nice and good experience of GETTING LOST again but HAPPY!
PLF...GO...MOVE FORWARD..A PLACE AND GROUP WHEREIN YOU COULD FEEL YOU REALLY BELONG!

the LIGHT



I open my heart
to let a ray of sunlight,
I look up in the sky
Today was so clear and blue.


Why Am I like This?
i ask myself
Why there are times
i just want to hide away
behind a shadow and just drift away
I see a door openning ahead
with ray of light coming in
If i have to give up now
and not dare to continue
and walk throughall this
Then what am i living for?
What do i want in my life?
to live alone but myself and trust no one..?
Is this what i really want?
Life is so beautiful to be wasted away
when you have someone to share it with
I look up, yes i saw the stars
shinning so beautifully against
the darkness of the night
i thought they were like unfading smile
so sweetly touching the deepest
part of my heart, so vividly and so pure.
I reach out my hand to the light above me,
It's time i let go,
and put away all the fear in me
it's time i come out hiding in the dark
and embrace the bright new ray of sunlight
with the promise of a bright day ahead.

Tuesday, January 23, 2007

the ATTITUDE

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.
It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances,than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do.

It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill
It will make or break a company, a church, a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.
And so it is with you...

We are in charge of our attitudes

Sacrifices.....


There are reasons that keep us from doing things. And there might only be one good reason in doing so. That reason could be the ultimate impact for a fulfilled destiny.
"Sometimes, the only ticket to HAPPINESS and CONTENTMENT is PAIN... You will never know how to appreciate success and good things that come your way if you haven't gone through hardships. I'm a believer of this and I know most of you do, too. You should never be afraid to get hurt because for every pain, there's a relief; For every ending, the a new beginning; and for every lacking, there's something that will fulfill..YOU!!!
I can say that I'm HAPPY and CONTENTED... That's the fruit of what I did. But at times, I wonder... What if I didn't risked?! What if I just left everything the same as they were!? Will I end up with the same direction towards happiness and contentment? I really don't know...
Nevertheless, I am very thankful... I don't regret it. Now, all I can hope is for everyone to feel the same way as I do. HAPPY, BLESSED and CONTENTED... I will pray for that.
GOD MOVES IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS... I love you my Lord... Thanks for... you know it already...

Giving UP!


it is madness

...to hate all roses

...coz u got scratched

...by one thorn.


to give up

...on your dreams.

..coz one

... didn't come true.


to lose faith
...in prayers
...coz one
...wasn't answered
to give up
...all your efforts
...coz some of them
...failed.
to condemn all
...of your friends
...coz one
...betrayed you.
to not believe in love
...coz someone was unfaithful
...or didn't
...love you back.
to throw away all your chances
...to be happy
...coz you didnt succeed
...on your previous attempt.
do not give up
...do not give in
...keep believin
...continue livin.

Sunday, January 21, 2007

symptoms......

Why do I often find myself
Staring at nothing, scorning myself.
Pitying myself?

Why is it that the only things
That keep me company
Are the silent tears that come
When I can’t help them anymore?

Why must I always think of
The ecstatic but ephemeral
Moments we shared alone together,
Just you and me?

Why should these memories
Keep coming back to me
Making me long for you
Making me wish for what is past
To become present?

Denial?????


I sense an icy spell shadowing upon us,

I feel despair seeping through my veins,

Blurring this vision with imminent tears.

Through the mist, I see yesterday

And hear my own laughter ringing in my ears,

Mocking my moments of solitude.


Love … so sweet an endearment fitted to only you,

Someone so close, yet very far to reach

Someone my heart loves with love

More maddening than love.

I see your image teasing my imagination

I hear your voice

And listen to its soothing tone.

I feel the warmth of your kisses

Touching the very depths of my soul…

Elevating me to great heights and ecstacy.

It was a beautiful yesterday with you,
My love, but what an agonizing tomorrow.
Today, I sight with utter disbelief
My eyes are crying with unshed tears
Because it is my heart that is bleeding
Slowly killing me,
I close my eyes to ease the pain,
But I find myself staring at the vast wilderness of the sky,
Searching for the answer to the sudden coldness
You have sent my way.
I LOVE YOU … but is it all in vain?

Thursday, January 18, 2007

SOME WHY's.......


A lover, who claims to love, can never hurt his/her beloved. Love demands that you care utmost for your beloved. You are concerned about their feelings. You make them as comfortable as possible. You keep them as happy as possible. You help them fulfill their dreams. You encourage them during tough times and you are always there for them. If you don't do this, there will be nothing called as love. The definition of love includes the qualities I mentioned.


This does happen. In many relationships it happens all through the life. Such couples need not worry to know about heaven. Their home is heaven. But in some relationships, if a lover wishes to break away for any reason including feelings of being treated unjust, the results will be harrowing.


Let us look at what will happen. As the lover who wishes to break away remembers all the investments she/he did for the love, she will feel that all has gone waste. All ur sacrifices are in vain. You did so much for many years, and now what is the result? This frustration and anger is directed towards the partner. At that time the lover who is breaking away forgets that worse will happen to one she /he will be leaving. Only selfish thoughts occupy the mind. This is the tragedy of such love.


The one who is left behind might have made more sacrifices and given a lot more for love. He/she gets bewildered at why this break up is happening? It is like a sudden earthquake.


That is why I asked,



that






if you love someone why hurt?

HURTING??????


-letting go of a person you've just learned to love.


-reminiscing the good times you had with your ex.


-shielding your heart to love somebody.


-tring to hide the tears that involuntarily fall from your eyes


-loving a person too much.
-giving up someone you never thought of giving up.


-having the right love at the wrong time.


-taking the risk to fall in love again.


-hiding your relationship from someone else.


-controlling your feelings to avoid hurting a friend.


-thinking of him/her every waking and sleeping moment knowing all the while that she/he never even thinks a single thought of you.


-holding back only to find out when it's too late, you both felt the same way but were only scared to lose each other so much that you didn't let the feelings out.


-falling inlove w/ someone you didn't meant to fall inlove with.


-finding the perfect girl/guy with only one problem. she/she doesn't love you the way you want him/her to.


-helping the one you love to get closer to the one he love, your "friend".


-seeing the one you love crying because of someone else.


-having to hear, "...I already met someone new."


-agreeing to his/her wish to stay just "friends"


-asking his/her freedom back because it's what you think is the best for the two of you. or.. that..


-he can love her more.


-asking you to "forget everything that happened" and be friends again.


-hearing that you're just being treated as kuya/lil sis
-being denied in front of people, his/her friends most especially....


-telling you lies like where she's/he's been when actually he/she was with a "new friend" or an "old flame".


-pretending you're ok when deep inside you're dying.


-pretending you're strong and recognizing your weaknesses.


-lying in bed thinking of that special someone you can never have.


-having to face the fact that someone is capable of completely destroying the wall that you have set for yourself and leaving you weak and vulnerable.


-finding out that the more you try to hate him/her, the more you end up loving him/her even more.


-realizing your stupid mistakes that led to your break-up.

Wednesday, January 17, 2007

L O V E........

Forget the people in the past and thank them for hurting you,
which led you to love the people you have right now.

When you love someone, you'll do crazy things you can't explain;
you'll deny the truth and believe in lies.
When you love someone, you sacrifice, give everything you've got and don't think twice.

You risk it all no matter what.
Everything in life is temporary because everything changes.
That is why it takes courage to love, knowing it might end anytime... having faith will make it last.

A friend is not one who would laugh when you laugh and cry when you cry.
He is the one who make you laugh and stop you from crying.

Love is the feeling we fall in and out of, and every time we fall off, we learn to hold on tighter... hoping that next time, we may never have to let go.

They say when love knocks at your door, open it.
But do you know that sometimes love enters through the back door and before you begin to notice it, it's on it's way out.

Have you ever loved only to let it go?
Have you ever hated someone and loved him so?
Have you ever missed someone so bad it made you cry?
Have you ever seen someone left alone without knowing why?

True: Lucky is the man who wins the first love of a woman but luckier is the woman who wins the last love of a man.

Love is not the right word to say when you feel guilty nor the right word to say when you like a person but love really matters when we share our thoughts, our minds, and our hearts...

Life has a way of changing things but not the joy that friendship brings, for friendship is like the shining moon, making each night a brighter one.

Love is not for beauty or color of the skin, but for a heart that is loyal within, for beauty fades and the skin would grow old but a heart that is loyal will never turn cold.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.

Love is easy to feel, so hard to explain; so easy to get, so hard to let go; so easy to spell, so hard to define...and yet everyone is still taking the risk.

That's love!!!
time
that’s all they say it takes
...to forget a love...to find the truth
...to lose yourselftime

how long does it take
...to just hold on
...to fight one last time
...to save yourselftime

when does it begin
...to heal
...to feel
...to redefine yourself

time
lost in the confusion inside
when will the answer be revealed
where did I go wrong
which second did I waste
that changed my life forever

time the choices are revealed
many paths to choose from
obstacles too large to fathom
grit your teeth and bear the load
make the leap of faith

time
.... that’s all they say it takes